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seven to eight



Your seven year old loves to share their

knowledge with you!  They are curious about

their world and ask more complex questions.  

Their problem solving skills show sophistication

and, at times, will surprise you!  


Although they ask more complex questions

and express their ideas more openly, they can

become frustrated,  don't like making mistakes,

being corrected or criticized.  Give them 

praise when they think outside of the box and
 
express their opinions!  Encourage them to ask
 
questions and develop problem solving skills.


Their increased reading skills open up a whole

new world to them!  At this age, their self

awareness and body image reach new levels. 

They often take physical activities such as 

swimming, dancing and skating more seriously . 

They master body movements and have an

increased level of eye hand coordination.  All

of these skills go hand in hand with challenging
 
themselves in areas that they love, from skating 

to karate to playing the piano. This is a great

time to support their interests by getting them

involved in what they like most.  


With their expanding personal awareness, they

will begin to talk more about "what they want to
 
be"  and begin to have"idols".  They are able to 

critique things that they like and don't like about
 
people and become more selective in choosing 

friends.  


They evaluate who they are according to how
 
they come across to others.  They're more willing
 
to listen to advice, which helps them become less

argumentative!  They are able to see another
 
person's perspective and are more flexible 

overall.  


social and emotional


Seven year olds' love having and making friends! 

They also enjoy imitating them!  Their empathy

for others strengthens as well as their ability to

stand up for themselves.  This ability to stand
 
behind who they are enables them to compare

themselves to others.  They like to see if other
 
people are "better" or "different" from them.

They look for the why and how but really don't

like their peers to be better at something!


At this age, they don't hesitate to argue with

their friends if they don't agree!  Although
 
they are increasing their social skills, keep an

eye out for some of the cruel behavior that can

occur.  Their sense of inner justice can get a bit

out of control!  


They will develop a "best friend" at this age and

will become more skilled negotiators to sustain

that friendship.  They may call a few children

"best friends" but this will narrow down by the

time that they are eight years old.

"Belonging" becomes important to them.  

Calling friends on the phone and emailing are a
 
way they like to stay connected. 

If they aren't already involved in scouts or sports

teams, it's  a good time to help them increase
 
their social group in a more structured way.


Their ability to understand the feelings and

perspectives of others increases and helps
 
them take more initiative socially.  Children's

actual skill levels will vary greatly depending

on the amount of physical activity they get!  

Children who are sedentary will not mature
 
as quickly as those who are more involved in
 
dance, sporting activities or even playing in

the backyard! The more interaction with peers,

the more the social skills will develop. 


Second Grade



Social Changes


Second graders begin to feel more

confident about 
being in school.  

With a few years of school under

their belt, they know what to expect!  



Not everyone is their best friend as

they were in 
first grade!  Their

increased ability to recognize

differences in others makes them
 
more selective
about who they want
 
to spend their time with!



This is the year when they begin to

become more easily
influenced by

people who are outside of their 

family.  



Rules and the consequences of

breaking them 
become more

apparent.  Hopefully your child's

teacher will be consistent and

enforce consequences.  It's
 

important for you to do the same!  



It's also a good
time to take

advantage of this age of "rule
 
clarity" and realize of the advantage
 
of your child learning the importance

of following the rules and doing the

right thing!
The more they are aware

of rules and consequences
and know
 
that you mean what you say, the

better!
Waiting until they are older

and expecting them to 
listen will

become much bigger problems for

everyone! 



If you've been sitting with them

while they do their
homework,

now is the time to wean yourself

a bit!
Your seven year old needs

to begin to develop
more

independence in that area and

begin to 
become self-directed. 

These skills are expected
by the
 
time they are in third grade so it's
 
a good
idea to help them with this.  


Enjoy this year of growth in so many

areas!  Yes, much of the

innocence of the earlier years is

gone, but there is so much

wonderment at this age that it feels

almost magical!

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